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Hi Ladies! It's been a long time since I last posted, but the time has come for me to give you another heads up. The Moms Talk (Grandparents Talk in this case) boards will be migrating to the vBulletin system that already exists for the rest of the community. This format is going to be retired. I know that on one hand, it might not be a welcomed change, but on the other hand, it will provide you with additional security (ability to form private groups) and a resolution to current glitches (No more 40 character rule, and you will be able to post urls without spaces). You will also be integrated into the message board community and more able to participate in upcoming contests and programs aimed at increasing camaraderie and excitement throughout the message boards. I don't have an actual date for the final migration. I do know that these posts here will not be deleted. If at all possible, they will migrate to the new board in their current state. At the very least, they will be archived and will be searchable. You can visit the new board and start posting at anytime: http://interact. iparenting. com/boards/forumdisplay. php?f=6685 (There are no spaces in this url, but in order to post this, I had to add a space after each period. Please remove the spaces before you attempt to use the url.) If you need any assistance at all, please email me. Shel, iP Senior Editor

Shel email: shel@iparenting.com 8/28/2006 at 3:12 (CT)

Our daughter and two grandsons (4 and 2) live in Philly. Seven years ago my husband and I moved to Colorado for work and fell in love with it. We have a great relationship with our daughter and visit them several times a year. We rent a place close to them for 2 months each year (Nov & Dec) to be there for both boys' birthdays and the holidays. Now my question: Our daughter really misses us and wants us to move there. My husband is retired now and my work is flexible enough to allow that - so there's really no good reason not to, except that we prefer rural Colorado to big east-coast city life. I know we're good grandparents, even from this distance. We just went back and kept the boys for 5 days while the parents went on vacation and had no problems at all, a testiment to how much they know and love us. But as they grow up, we will miss most of their school and sports events and won't be there when they just need someone other than mom and dad to talk with. Are we being short-sighted by NOT moving there? I don't want to miss out on being a part of their lives. But I also don't want to move there and dislike every minute that I'm not with them. Thanks for any insight you can offer!

Vickie email: ver3298@msn.com 8/9/2006 at 20:38 (CT)

I have a just-turned 12 grandaughter. We have always been very close and after my daughter's divorce, they lived with us for six years. While my daughter was going through this hard time, I cared for and helped raise my grandaughter. They moved into their own apt. (with daughter's boyfriend also) two years ago and just lately, my grandaughter doesn't want to spend so much time with me. I'm thinking her age might have something to do with it.....she seems to just want to be around her mom and mom's boyfriend now. I feel guilty because I feel so hurt. Anyone gone through this?

Marleen email: Philly1146@comcast.net 7/1/2006 at 3:06 (CT)

My daughter and son-in-law are having twins. Their youngest is still in diapers not walking yet. My husband and I get the youngest overnight once a week. Also, sometimes throughtout the week. Any suggestions for helping them out. We are both retired, so not alot of money, but have time and love. She prefers to do the housework , so when I go over I keep my grandchild.

Betty email: Sellavonnowok1@aol.com 6/14/2006 at 4:09 (CT)

Hi I am a new grandma, would like to talk to other new grandmas, my daughter had him at age 18, and hes always with his nannie, any advice would be most welcome.. :)

leanne email: leannemcneil89@hotmail.com 6/7/2006 at 9:19 (CT)

Does anyone have suggestions about how to stay close when the grandchildren are across the country? I have two granddaughers (12 and 7), two step-grandsons (11 and 6) and a brand-new grandson (2 weeks old)--as well as a granddaughter due in July. All are in Arizona or California and I'm on the east coast. Finances are tight for everyone so we can't visit as often as we'd like. Thanks for your ideas!

Alene email: archera@nwf.org 6/6/2006 at 23:36 (CT)

Hello, I am hoping to connect to grandparents who are involved in the lives of their grandkids, who initiate visits with them and enjoy spending time with them. My husband and I have 1 son who is the only grandchild in the family. My parents have both died, but I was very close to my mom (dad died when I was 14) and miss her being a part of our family. She would have been very involved, as she was with my 3 nephews. My husband's parents are in their 70's and completely un-involved. We have tried many ways to get them involved and get them to care. They are deeply involved with their youngest daughter and her husband and his mother (the daughter is 42), but they have never ever asked to take our son anywhere on their own, babysit, or even initiate telephone calls to him. He is 9 and asks why his grandparents don't like him and why they never do the things with him that his friends' grandparents do. They are healthy and travel, so they are mobile. When my husband recently confronted them about this my MIL defensively said, "Well, what do YOU do with him?" I know we cannot make them care. But I would like to know if any other grandparents out there could offer some words I might send to them to explain what they are missing and how rewarding a relationship with their grandson could be for them. They just think we are being critical. I think they need some perspective from other grandparents. Can anyone help? Thanks, Rebecca

Rebecca email: beckspapergarden@sympatico.ca 5/9/2006 at 12:56 (CT)

I am hoping to talk with other first time grand-mothers who feel their DIL's are keeping them at arms length. She is a loving wife and will be a wonderful mom but I don't know where I stand with her. Any advice. Patti

Patti email: pattikaye2000@hotmail.com 4/28/2006 at 22:08 (CT)

My grandson has a controlling mother. Anyone else have that problem?

JUDY email: CLEARWATERBCHGRL@AOL.COM 3/1/2006 at 6:38 (CT)

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